Almost all things that we do in life are in the pursuit of happiness or the avoidance of pain. We go to work each day because we believe that having the funds to afford food, shelter and the luxuries in life will bring us pleasure. We likely got married because we believed that having a loving partner and a family unit would create a happy life. It is likely that you now want to get a divorce because you want to free yourself from the pain of an unhappy marriage. The big question is, will divorce bring happiness?
This depends on a number of different factors, including the reasons why you are going through a divorce, whether you initiated the divorce, and your approach to life in general. But an important point to make is that divorce can bring happiness even if you wanted to remain married against all odds. The following are some ways in which divorce could bring your happiness.
You’ll be more in control
When you become single, you’ll be the only person you have to answer to in making decisions. This means that there will no longer be anyone holding you back from your goals. This can be a great thing, because you may be able to spend more time working on what you’re passionate about. However, remember also that you’ll have no one to blame when you don’t live up to your own expectations of yourself. While this can be uncomfortable, it can also be a way to learn about accountability.
You’ll rediscover yourself
When a person gets married, their sense of identity often changes — they no longer see themselves as “I”, but instead as “we.” When you become single, you’ll have to rediscover once again who you are, and this could improve your self image and the way you view the world.
Whether you wanted a divorce or not, divorce can bring happiness if you allow it. It begins with having the right attitude to the divorce process and making sure that you are prepared.
