As a parent of a child who is having trouble adjusting to the idea of a divorce, you want to do what is in their best interests. You and your spouse own multiple properties, and there is a potential that you could keep, and share, the marital home. Since that’s the case, you may want to consider bird nesting as one possible custody solution to help your child feel more at home and relaxed while you and your spouse work out how to live your lives separately once you divorce.
Nesting during a divorce will help stabilize your family even while you separate. The way nesting works is simple: Your child stays in the family home.
Understanding how nesting may help your divorce case
With nesting, one of the benefits is that your child stays in the family home. They don’t need to worry about taking homework back and forth between homes or missing a family pet when they’re unable to travel together.
Instead, what you do as parents is set up your own custody schedule that determines when you will live in the home and when your ex will live in the home. For example, if you work out of town over the weekend, you may opt to live in your shared family home during the week and to switch out on the weekends, so that the other parent has custody in the family home when you’re away.
The best way to set up a nesting scenario will depend on how many homes you have access to, the age of your child and how well you and your ex get along.
Do you have to have two properties to try bird nesting?
You don’t necessarily have to have two homes to use bird nesting. It may be possible to share the home if you have two different areas in which you could live. For example, many larger homes have pool houses or mother-in-law suites that are separate from the main house, so both parents could stay on the property without living in close quarters.
If your child is struggling to adapt to your divorce, consider bird nesting. It may be a good solution for your family.